Most of us have, at one time or another, allowed an undesirable situation to remain in place because we simply did not want to change it. Self defeat is amazingly common, although few people will own up to it.

Someone will say the law of attraction doesn’t work because they don’t appear to be getting what they want. In truth they are getting what is aligned with their real beliefs, hence attraction is very real and at play.

It’s easy to say we want one thing while deep down we are fine struggling and suffering. As bizare as this sounds just a little study of the people around you, and of yourself, will reveal the truth.

Often our fear of change, even positive change, will keep us from moving forward. It’s easier to keep complaining and suffering that to jump into the unknown.

Also, there is the very common feeling of not deserving the thing we actually desire. The truth is what we do or don’t deserve is totally decided by us.

Divinity wants to heap blessings onto us beyond anything we could possibly dream of, yet many times we put a stop to this because we don’t feel worthy.

This self sabotage is at the same time a fascinating phenomenon and a sad reality.

Most of us have a lot of work to do in clearing negative beliefs before we can really manifest what divinity has to offer us. But before we can do that we must admit that we are allowing ourselves to suffer, and in fact at times we are even demanding it.

It’s a lot to take in. But those who are thinking from the higher mind, and who can put the ego aside for just a moment, will see the truth.

It’s easy to say I want this, or I’d like to have that. But I think it’s jsut as easy to fool ourselves with half-hearted intentions.

Small desire equals small manifestation. Large desire, and therefore large energy, results in large manifestations.

Maybe this is simplistic. Maybe you could argue that desire is said to be something to avoid in Taoist and Buudhist teachings.

I would counter that all things have their place. And the fact remains that many people, myself included, have a tendancy to say “I want that”" without really having a strong desire.

Think about this: William Walker Atkinson in his great book Thought Vibrations asks if we want what we say we want…

“in the same way a prisoner wants his freedom…”

Really let that sink in. Do you want what you claim you want as badly as a man or woman behind bars wants to be free?

That’s a great and powerful analogy to consider the next time you aren’t getting what you say you want. The very fact may be that your desire is not powerful enough.

If you find your wanting is not as real as it could be, it may even be true that you simply don’t want this person, place, or event at all. Often we “want” what others believe we need rather than what our hearts really desire.

This is definitely something for thought.

At the same time if it turns out you are really drawn to your desire perhaps you simply need to strengthen your power of will. Most of us lose our power of will at some point and then need to regain it.

And willpower is more than just the ability one exerts to abstain from that second drink. True power of the will is the extension of our minds to harness our essence and manifest the world around us.

Well all say we want the best out of life. We talk about getting rich, being in love, and getting into great shape.

But many people - myself included at one time in my life - don’t really feel like we deserve the best life has to offer. Consider these questions carefully and honestly:

When you have plenty of money in the bank do you ever feel uncomfortable and have the unexplainable urge to blow it?

When you are in a good relationship with someone do you think there must be a limit to how long it can last because it’s “just normal” for relationships to go bad at some point?

When things are going really great for you in life, do you feel on edge and as if something major and bad is going to hit you at any moment?

If you can identify with these or other related feelings, you probably have some worthiness issues. While this is common, it should not be considered “normal” or healthy self esteem.

The truth is you deserve to have a great life. The divine wants you to be happy and blessed, and there is no need to feel uncomfortable or embarassed when things are looking up for you.

PRactice immersing yourself in the ideal life, even if this means imagining it, and really feel at home. Know on a deep level that you are supposed to be in a state of bliss and satisfaction.

You honestly deserve this. Don’t rob yourself of an exciting life by not letting yourself have the happiness that is rightfully yours!