You don’t need to be a scientist to understand that victims and abusers attract one another. This is obvious because one can’t exist without the other.
I have met many people who crave abusive relationships and seem to let nothing stand in their way of being in one.
I have met many people who are in love with poverty and will let nothing deprive them of their right to be broke.
I have met many people who work very hard at sabotaging their own happiness, and then cry about how things just aren’t “working out” for them.
I truly believe that we get out of life what we put in, and what we want to see manifest. I have yet to meet a victim who legitimately and earnestly wants better circumstances in his or her life; there is always an obvious subconscious desire to play the victim and wave the “poor me” flag.
People who say things like “forces are working against me” or “it just isn’t happening” are, whether consciously aware of it or not, exactly where they want to be in life. They are victims because of their own choosing, and nothing in their life will ever change until their need to be the victim is dealt with.
If you feel you might be playing the victim, let me first congratulate you on this realization! Taking responsibility for what manifests in your life is the first step in creating a better life.
As soon as you assume complete and total ownership of everything happening to you in your life - even things that seem to come from “outside” - you are on your way to escaping the victim mentality. and you must stop being a victim before you can manifest the life you want.